Dating my wife
Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high.
Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom?
Have you had a “Hey, this isn’t really working” conversation before now? Would you have described yourself as “happily married” before you saw them together? Whatever the answers are, taking your mom on a date to your favorite local moving her shit into your house (which is still your house…I think? I REPEAT: ALL IS NOT WELL.” It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships.
) are not the stealthy moves of professional secret keepers, y’all. He’s always going to be the guy who dated your mom.
Knowing I can’t go back to my life as it once was makes me miss it so much.
My mother is the one having long talks with my husband at night, or going to a nice restaurant with him or the theatre and I am at a grubby pub every night with my alcoholic lover.
I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.
I don’t believe there are feelings of love and attraction that “have to” be acted upon. There are some things I can’t get past, though, when I read your letter.
I don’t believe in “it just happened.” “It” happens because people make it happen. A) Of all the women in the world he chose to date your mom and of all of the gin joints in the world he chose to take her to your regular hangout. What are the chances that they didn’t see you or know you were there?
I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings.